“Yes, you can be a dreamer and a doer too, if you will remove one word from your vocabulary: impossible.” ~ Robert Schuller
Last week, we explored limiting beliefs, the first of the “Big 4” energy blocks which prevent us from making conscious choices and reaching our potential. Let’s take a look now at another one of those blocks – the assumptions we make.
An assumption is a belief that is based on the premise that because something happened in the past, it is automatically going to happen again.
When you make choices based on your assumptions, you are letting the past control the future. Assumptions hold you back, because when you already “know” something won’t work, you probably won’t even consider doing it. Even if you do attempt it, you won’t have a lot of energy for, or be engaged in your task since you don’t really believe it can work anyway. Here’s the thing … when you hold on to your assumptions, you miss out on many possibilities. You assume things are impossible.
Imagine this scenario: A new salesperson has done five sales presentations, and none of the prospective clients have decided to buy her product. If she then makes the assumption she is not good at doing presentations, then it’s unlikely she’ll put her all into asking for the sales meeting. And, even if she does end up doing one, the catabolic (negativity) energy she brings with her to the presentation may actually repel her potential sales. And without her even realizing it, she has created more proof that her assumption was correct.
Here are some typical assumptions:
- If I don’t do it myself, it won’t be done right.
- My kids are lazy and unproductive.
- I’m no good at interviewing.
- No one listens to what I’m saying.
Because assumptions are primarily based on personal experience, they are internalized and emotional, and somewhat difficult to let go of. Delving deep to remove the emotion of the past experience may be necessary before moving forward.
The main question to ask when challenging an assumption is simply “Just because that happened in the past, why must it happen again?”
This week, just notice what some of your assumptions are – recognize when you just “know” something won’t work based on your past experience. Write the assumption down. Question the assumption. And consciously choose to let it go and to take positive action instead of letting the fear of the assumption coming true hold you back from the success you want … and deserve to have.
Next week we’ll talk about our interpretations, the next of the Big 4 blocks.
“We would accomplish many more things if we did not think of them as impossible.” ~ Chretien Malesherbes