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Variety and Anticipation = Unreasonable Happiness!

We are ever on the threshold of new journeys and new discoveries. Can you imagine the excitement of the Wright brothers on the morning of that first flight? The anticipation of Jonas Salk as he analyzed the data that demonstrated a way to prevent polio? ~ Joseph B. Wirthlin

 

Last week we talked about a key to being unreasonably happy – recognizing and accepting your moods and knowing they will change.

Another key to happiness in iPEC’s Law of Being program is to appreciate variety and anticipation.

For most people, variety is truly the spice of life. Many people complain of boredom and burnout because they do the same things again and again. Changing your life, even slightly, can go a long way to making you happier. After all, life is change, and change is inevitable. Knowing how to make change work for you is a valuable key to happiness. Look for new leadership opportunities, sign up for a class, explore new interests, meet new people, and pursue your passion. Set a goal and make it happen!

Anticipation, at first, may seem contradictory to “being in the moment,” something that’s often thought of as being essential for happiness. After all, how can we be in the here and now when we’re thinking about the future? There’s a line in the song “Anticipation” by Carly Simon – “We can never know about the days to come, but we think about them anyway…”  That’s true for almost everyone – but the way that you think about future events is what separates those who are unreasonably happy.

The anticipation of a future enjoyable event produces anabolic thoughts and feelings, and just knowing something exciting is going to happen can help us experience more happiness. Often, the anticipation is even more enjoyable than the event. It’s important to have things to look forward to, whether they are events or goals, so we can experience the anticipation in the present moment.

Worry about a future event produces catabolic thoughts and feelings – even if the dreaded outcome never comes to pass. When you worry, you also experience anticipation in the present moment – but that anticipation is draining and distracting. How much happier could you be if you let go of worry?

Another aspect of “appreciating anticipation” is expectation.  When you expect, you’re making a judgment about something occurring in a particular way – you’re attached to the outcome. Anticipating what is to come, while letting go of the expectation of exactly how it will come, is what allows you to be in the here and now while anticipating the future.

You can be unreasonably happy by trying new things, and looking forward, without judgment or expectation to what is to come. Why not try it this week?
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Are You Pursuing Happiness as a Leader

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. … ~ The United States Declaration of Independence.

Happiness is something most of us strive for, and in fact, feel we deserve to have. After all, our Declaration of Independence references “certain unalienable Rights, that among these … the pursuit of Happiness.”

So what does it mean to pursue happiness? When we think of pursuing something, we usually mean we’re going after something we don’t already have.  In Marci Shimoff’s book, Happy for No Reason, she says that in Thomas Jefferson’s time, “to pursue something meant to practice that activity, to do it regularly, to make a habit of it.” There’s a huge difference between chasing after happiness and practicing happiness.  When we chase after happiness, we’re coming from a perspective of lack – we don’t have the thing that we want. But when we practice happiness, we’re active participants in making ourselves even happier.

So how can we practice happiness? In Bruce D. Schneider’s interview, “How to Be Unreasonably Happy,” he goes over 10 keys to happiness, which he also describes in more detail in iPEC’s Law of Being program.

The first key is to know that you can weather your moods. Like the weather, your moods are always changing. Recognizing and accepting your moods and knowing they will change is important to “being happiness.”

If you realize this, when you are up, you can fully appreciate the moments of pure pleasure. Instead of being disappointed when your great mood doesn’t last, you know not only won’t it last, but it’s not supposed to, and so you can appreciate it while it does.

When you are down, you also know it won’t last, and because of that, you can weather the low feelings. If you are really down, know that your natural balance will soon bring you up. From a very high level perspective, you can now appreciate the downs, for you’ll know each of life’s experiences are opportunities to appreciate the gifts life bring us.

So next time you have a great day – or a “bad” one – appreciate it for what it is, know it won’t last, and know that perspective will put you well on your way to pursuing happiness.

Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy. ~ Guillaume Apollinaire

For more information on leadership or the Law of Being program, call us at 682.200.1412 or Info@ApexLeadershipCoaching.com.